The Trump campaign’s conduct at Arlington is shocking but not surprising | Kevin Carroll

Nowhere in that vast cemetery is Reagan's point driven home as poignantly as in section 60, which embraces those men and women who made the ultimate sacrifice at painfully young ages since 9/11. Here the dates on the simple headstones are within memory, the grief of loved ones is raw and visitors may witness acts of tenderness in response.

Good manners, Jane Austen observed, hold a society together. George Washington copied longhand in boyhood and preserved into adulthood a list of 110 "Rules of Civility & Decent Behavior". Another general turned president, Dwight Eisenhower, cautioned in his Guildhall address after VE Day that "humility must always be the portion" of any man who receives acclaim earned by others' sacrifices.

Donald Trump and his staff knew - and were reminded of - federal regulations specifically prohibiting the misconduct their campaign engaged in at Arlington's section 60 this week. But the law aside, only a gross lack of manners, decency and humility could incline a person to film a fundraising appeal over the resting places of dead men and women who cannot decline to participate in the coarse spectacle. The photo of a grinning Trump giving a jaunty thumbs-up over these patriots' graves is an indelible image of narcissism risen to the point of sociopathy.

Worse is the allegation that two Trump staff members assaulted a small, middle-aged female Department of the Army employee who attempted to enforce the regulation and preserve the cemetery's dignity. The victim reportedly refrained from filing charges due to a reasonable fear of violence or harassment from Trump's supporters. Meanwhile, Trump's campaign defamed this woman as mentally ill. His running mate, JD Vance, said Kamala Harris could "go to hell" for her campaign's suggestion that the unauthorized footage was intended for use as political footage - just before Trump used it for exactly that.

This ugly incident would have derailed the candidacy of any presidential nominee before Trump's crude emergence on the American political scene in 2016. In 2024 it is already, probably intentionally on Trump's part, being replaced in the news by reaction to his social media posts making lewd innuendos about Harris, and QAnon threats to imprison Democratic party leaders. But it is part of a pattern of disrespect for and misuse of the United States military that bears upon Trump's fitness to serve again as president.

Trump infamously described America's dead from the first world war as "suckers" and "losers". Trump also asked my former boss, White House chief of staff John Kelly - on Memorial Day and over the section 60 grave of his Marine son killed in Afghanistan - "What was in it for them?" I walked up to a visibly shocked Kelly moments after that exchange, the details of which he later confirmed.

Trump demanded military equipment parades in Washington of the kind Soviet leaders held on May Day in Moscow's Red Square, but disdained appearing with wounded service members. He called America's service chiefs "dopes and babies" and needled them about their public sector pay - God only knows what he thinks of enlisted troops who make a fraction of a general's salary.

Trump began his run for the presidency in 2016 by mocking the late senator John McCain for being a prisoner of war; he followed this by feuding with the bereaved parents of Muslim American and African American soldiers; recently, he belittled Medal of Honor recipients shot during the brave actions that led to their awards.

More serious than Trump's words are his actions and plans regarding the armed forces. In 2018 Trump discussed having troops shoot civilian migrants, including women and children, as they tried to cross America's south-west border - a patently illegal order. In 2020 he unlawfully used national guardsmen to clear protesters from Lafayette Park for yet another campaign photo opportunity. In 2021 Trump and his advisors planned to invoke the Insurrection Act to misuse the military to put down protests anticipated if Mike Pence and Congress refused to certify Joe Biden's electoral college victory. Trump's Project 2025 envisions using the national guard for internal immigration investigations, a vast and ill-advised expansion of the American military's limited role in domestic law enforcement.

Trump sees the armed services as yet another entity to be misused for his personal benefit, damaged and then discarded just as he has with his bankrupt businesses, the evangelical Christian churches and the Republican party. Beyond that, his boorish statements and bad behavior regarding the military almost certainly come from a place of self-loathing. Trump dodged the Vietnam war draft by claiming - probably falsely - to suffer from bone spurs. A gnawingly insecure man, Trump is self-conscious of his lack of the virtues towards which the military strives: as the US army puts it, loyalty to the constitution, dutiful fulfillment of responsibilities, respect for others, selfless service to both the country and subordinates, honor, integrity and personal courage.

His poor form at Arlington this week therefore shocks but does not surprise, as the idea of serving others, much less giving one's life for others, is anathema to Trump. This attitude would be a sad commentary about any man, but ought to disqualify someone seeking to serve as commander-in-chief.